The Material Kinship Reader Muyang Notes

The Material Kinship Reader

Accessories to this Love Elegies for Some of the Things I Have Worn and Loved

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How to think about the material of an object's (jewelry) Material? Source? Pattern? Style?

Cheap? Common? Widely-Used?

Who sells? Who produces it?

What's behind the pattern? Mythological stories?

Colonial Histories?

Who wears? Queers? Teens?

Why wears? Charm? Protection?

What will happen? Your sweat? Your body smell? Become Rusty? Oxidized？

Who produces it? Low-income? Race? Women?

How feel? Cute? Gentle? Soft?

Say Thank You to it. Survival. Care.

Worn out? Experiences? Death? Soul?

Pronoun？

Memories? Real?

Self? Scream?

Magic? Deep Inner? Nameless? Intimacy?

My sexuality? Porosity? Toxicity?

Insist? We?

Making Love and Relations Beyond Settler Sex and Family

reflection:

CCP has also implemented a series of policies in certain places

forced intermarriage with Han Chinese and the sterilization of local women.

Obviously, CCP's leadership has been extremely upsetting to the Chinese.

For example, during the covid there was a popular quote, "we are the last generation."

In China, parents who break the law will influence the next generations of children to take the test to become "civil servants/public servants".

Serving the government has always been seen as an "iron rice bowl", meaning you don't have to worry about losing your job for the rest of your life, and you have a good income.

My grandparents are from rural China. Many of the women in that village were trafficked from ethnic minorities. According to my father (which I don't agree with): these women came from poor places and got a good life because of marriage; there was no second choice in life in those days without marriage.

My father didn't force me to get married. When he thought it was the changing times that led to me being able to have more choices in life.

My cousin was helped by his family to find a girlfriend after college. They got married and had a child. It all happened very quickly and there didn't seem to be a good reason for it. This couple had little to no ability to do housework and their parents helped them with everthing, including cooking. This child has become a big burden and both parents take turns caring for it.

My brother was an average male who wasn't successful in his academic/job climb, and he was voted the most handsome boy in the school in middle school. But most Chinese males start to get ugly after college (hairline, body not in shape, becoming "cheesy", there are complex reasons for this). Marriage seems to be the only way out for such men.

In China, any move to become beautiful seems to be a crime. Not only is it monogamous, but most women are virgins until they meet their only husband. You don't need to be beautiful to attract the opposite sex because you can definitely get a wife through career success. Being beautiful means you are a "social person", a term that in China is the opposite of a "devoted family man". Being a "social person" means doing illegal things/not having a stable job/having sex with a lot of people.

I haven't lived in a rural area, but my grandparents cared more about whether or not I was married than my parents did. They always complained that I was too heavy (which to them meant not being attracted to women or having a small penis). They don't know that I go to the gym regularly to increase my weight.

主体间的客观化

主体间，'像'相关'一样，强调相互联系、共同责任和相互依赖的福祉。

我们可以把他们看作是一种联系。他们在与神灵、祖先、梦境和动物的接触中与之互惠，并获得力量。

我们习惯于把 "精神性 "或 "精神"、"性存在 "或 "性 "当作事物，而且肯定是独立的事物

"性 "可以被理解为 "一种存在方式，它......直接和有意地调解跨越家庭、宗族、布依族、部落的社会关系，以及包括其他非人类的关系形式"。有了这种理解，性存在看起来 "更像是一种力量，特别是能够治愈的力量"。

作为去殖民化努力的一部分，我们能否将自己纳入一个关系网中（我现在是以空间而不是时间概念来思考）。在可能的小时刻，我们能否抵制将人与人之间的 "性 "和 "性行为 "命名为可命名的对象？这样的分解能否帮助我们将我们与其他身体亲密接触的方式去殖民化--无论那些是人的身体、水或土地的身体、其他生物的身体，以及我们的祖先和其他不再或尚未体现的生命的活力？通过关注实际的关系状态--在良好的关系中--与人相处，结成亲属--并减少对类别的监控和管理，这可能会刺激更多的公正互动？