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On the personal side, it made me think about stoicism and the ways to talk to someone who finds fighting is their way of communicating. How to avoid being heartbroken + how to understand that some things cant be controlled. I found this similiar to my relationship with Turkey. I feel like its always a fight and struggle where I try to communicate my needs in my way but cant seem to reach anywhere. so when I tried to make a map of the other side's needs, it turned out so far away then mine :) | On the personal side, it made me think about stoicism and the ways to talk to someone who finds fighting is their way of communicating. How to avoid being heartbroken + how to understand that some things cant be controlled. I found this similiar to my relationship with Turkey. I feel like its always a fight and struggle where I try to communicate my needs in my way but cant seem to reach anywhere. so when I tried to make a map of the other side's needs, it turned out so far away then mine :) | ||
Another thing was the fact that I was working on being angry. Because at some point last year, I realised that I never raised my voice to anyone or was truly angry. This was because at the moment I felt angry, I justified the other persons needs and tied them to their action and was not angry anymore. They were raised that way, they had a bad day, they learnt to communicate in that way etc. But what I realized in the workshop, different than what I have been working with myself was that what I thought was empathy is actually justification. There is no limit to empathy but just because you are empathizing with someone doesnt mean you have to accept their actions. | Another thing was the fact that I was working on being angry. Because at some point last year, I realised that I never raised my voice to anyone or was truly angry. This was because at the moment I felt angry, I justified the other persons needs and tied them to their action and was not angry anymore. They were raised that way, they had a bad day, they learnt to communicate in that way etc. But what I realized in the workshop, different than what I have been working with myself was that what I thought was empathy is actually justification. There is no limit to empathy but just because you are empathizing with someone doesnt mean you have to accept their actions. I guess I can call that an enlightenment moment! | ||
=Special Issue 19-How Do We Library That?= | =Special Issue 19-How Do We Library That?= | ||
Revision as of 14:47, 22 September 2022
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Eleanor's Workshop
I think the best kick off for school was Nor's workshop. It was a confusing day, overloaded with `needs`. Need to figure out where the academy is; the need to find the lab; the need to communicate and the need to find a place of comfort I guess. So when we started talking about our needs and other peoples' needs outloud, they suddenly became real and them quickly unimportant as well.
It was a relief to seperate that days needs, putting them in order and taking action about it.
In the other hand, it was very interesting to be intimate and vulnerable with strangers (classmates) who will then become friends. I guess it was a good icebreaker because knowing how to identify someones needs or feelings is such a privelage and intimate experience.
Seeing how everyone felt similiar when they are distressed made the feeling of stress itself very funny :) So what if we feel shaky and have a stomach ache: we're in this together and we're owning our shit.
On the personal side, it made me think about stoicism and the ways to talk to someone who finds fighting is their way of communicating. How to avoid being heartbroken + how to understand that some things cant be controlled. I found this similiar to my relationship with Turkey. I feel like its always a fight and struggle where I try to communicate my needs in my way but cant seem to reach anywhere. so when I tried to make a map of the other side's needs, it turned out so far away then mine :)
Another thing was the fact that I was working on being angry. Because at some point last year, I realised that I never raised my voice to anyone or was truly angry. This was because at the moment I felt angry, I justified the other persons needs and tied them to their action and was not angry anymore. They were raised that way, they had a bad day, they learnt to communicate in that way etc. But what I realized in the workshop, different than what I have been working with myself was that what I thought was empathy is actually justification. There is no limit to empathy but just because you are empathizing with someone doesnt mean you have to accept their actions. I guess I can call that an enlightenment moment!
Special Issue 19-How Do We Library That?
Sesh#1
pad:https://pad.xpub.nl/p/SP19_22-09-19
Prototyping
Sesh#1
pad:https://pad.xpub.nl/p/SI19-prototyping-1