Harriet Lerner - The Dance of Deception

On Deception and Truth-Telling -> part of everyday life in all species throughout nature

Pretending and Truth-Telling are not always opposites. Pretending for example my be an indirect move towards truth. In pretending love or courage for example we may discover that it really does exist or that we can enhance our capacity for it. Sometimes pretending is a form of experimentation or imitation that widens our experience and our sense of possibility. It reflects a wish to find ourselves in order to be ourselves.

Truth-Telling Whom to tell, What to tell, When to tell, How much to tell and How to tell? Sometime being strategic is wiser that being spontaneous.

Aim of this book: Examine how all of us engage with deception and approach truth-telling. A subject that is at the heart of who we are in the world. And what kind of world this is.

What is the right thing?

Book: "The right to lie" Dr. Robert Walk 1970 -> examples of lies that strengthen intimate relationships